So I have this
pet peeve.....I can't stand it when single moms act like they can't stand on their own 2 feet. Now I know that it's not easy to raise 1 child and even more difficult to raise multiple, but ladies....if your "baby daddy" is not contributing and hasn't for at least the past year...give it up!! Stop asking him, relying on him, and getting mad when he doesn't help!!
What good does it really do to continue to be angry with him and constantly deal with the drama?? None! Don't get it twisted though...I'm not saying you should excuse him from it! I'm saying...if he ain't( yes, I said ain't and I'm not ashamed) done it by now with you constantly on his pa-tootie about paying some child support or helping with additional money, then he's just not going to do it. What I AM saying is...you've gotta step up and take care of things yourself because you're going to have to do it anyway when he doesn't help.
We are stressed out about enough as it is with these kids...daycare, clothes, shoes, registration fees, rent/mortgage, utility bills... I can keep going....so why add one more thing to our list? I'm sorry but it's pointless to me. I will not run behind him trying to make him take care of his financial obligations to our child. Nuh uh!! Not gonna do it! What I am gonna do is work my butt off so I can make the money I need to in order to take care of my children on my own. If you're not already doing this...you should be!!
Step it up ladies and stop getting mad about things you can't control. I find great pride and accomplishment in the strides and sacrifices I've made to be self-sufficient. Now whatever little money he pays is extra money in my Coach wallet! And he'll be paying me until every penny of that back child support is paid up!
This also applies to stressing and getting mad over him not being a father. I'm sure you've heard the saying, " you can't make him be a father." Lord knows I heard that numerous times after Jordan was born, but it's true. And again....why stress and deal with drama over something you can't control?! I don't know about him but I will be at every sports event, band concert, awards ceremony, try-out, etc that I can and I will reap the rewards of it all. It will continue to strengthen my relationship with my child while he's tearing his relationship with her apart. It's not my job to make sure he's around for Jordan so why worry about it?
Buuuut I'm sure there are those of you who don't agree, or just can't let it go because you feel like their dad should absolutely be there for his kids. So I say this to you....don't rant and rave about how he doesn't do this, that, or the other when HEELLOOOO....he hasn't done anything for how long now?!?!?! It's black and white....let it go and take care of yours, or continue to fight a neverending battle and deal with drama. Your choice!
I let it go a long time ago and have little to no "baby daddy" drama. Whatever they don't do will eventually come back to bite them in the ass without us doing anything. Slowly but surely karma is making it's way around to Jordan's dad. **Gasp!** Oh my how the tables turn and the fate of their relationship is in her 13 yr old hands! Reminds me of something Celie said in The Color Purple....."Until you do right by me everything you think about is gonna crumble!" LMAO!!!
Until next time.....
Peace, Love, Rockets, and KARMA!!!!